Cleaning Day 9

Almost halfway through my first change! Woot! This has been truly a blessing of a change. It’s proven true to me that having a cleaner home helps with stress levels. The hubby is also very appreciative of how clean I’ve been keeping the house. Yesterday I did lots of deep cleaning in the form of dusting the hard to reach areas and such, and today I’ll be doing some deeper cleaning involving the bathrooms. I’m really enjoying the feeling of completing my tasks at the end of the day. I’ve stopped timing myself and just concentrate on getting my goal done that day.

Today…

  • I’m thankful that my kids are getting used to clean up time. It’s getting easier every day to get them to start helping with the process at night and during the day.
  • I’m thankful that now that my home is relatively clean, it’s easy to maintain it on a daily basis.
  • I’m thankful that I can rely on my son to be sweet to my daughter. There was a time when he’d be rather rough and cruel to her, but those times are few and far between, nowadays. Here’s to hoping that my daughter learns to be sweeter to her brother, soon!

Tomorrow…

  • I’m thankful that no matter what comes in the future, I can rely on my husband to do what’s in our best interest and make wise decisions. He is probably the best critical thinker and problem solver that I’ve ever met. Although he can be a worrier, that means he’s a person who makes the safest decisions with the smallest likelihood of them turning out to be poor choices.
  • I’m thankful that even if buying my in-laws’ home doesn’t work out, my hubby has a Plan B on how we can eventually buy a different home, even if it will mean that we will have to wait much longer until that day comes.
  • I’m thankful that with the right plan and habits, I can pretty much accomplish whatever goals I may have. Whether I want to be healthier, finish college, learn a craft or a new language, etc. etc.

What are you thankful for, today? What do you have to look forward to in the future? I hope whoever reads this has an amazing day. See you next time!

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Cleaning Day 8

Well, I was able to keep up good habits during the weekend, but I did start slacking on having the kids help me clean up at the end of the day. They still helped me here and there, but not in the specific times I set for us to follow like last week. It’s ok, however! Mondays are a great day to “start over.” Unfortunately, I have a visit from Mother Nature and I’m feeling completely awful today (sorry if that’s TMI, but hey… I’m an honest person!). Gonna see if some chocolate, coffee, and Advil will do the trick and allow me to function close to normal. Right now, all I really want to do is curl up in a ball and sleep for the rest of the day, despite my fitness watch’s data indicating that I slept for over 8 hours last night… I want more, gosh-darnit!

I hope everyone had a good Father’s Day! I got to spend it with my family including my husband’s parents. We bought his father his favorite dessert, Boston Cream Pie, and they brought tacos over for us to eat together. I forgot to call my Dad, however, (he lives a few states away, otherwise we might have made plans with him!).

Anyways, I’m feeling really cruddy today, so I think my Gratitude List will be a good way to help take my focus away from the things I can’t control and appreciate the things I have and the things to come. So, let’s get started!

Today…

  • I’m thankful for my father. Without him, I would not exist. He may not be perfect, but he’s always acted to the best of his ability. He showed his love for his family by trying to protect us and providing for us by working hard at the many numerous manual labor jobs he held throughout our childhood. He is a good, God-fearing man, who has true and honorable convictions. May he live a long life, proud of his children and grandchildren.
  • I’m thankful for my husband, father of my children. God has truly blessed us by providing our children such an amazing father, role-model, play-mate, and provider. I spent many nights praying for my future husband as a child, and God provided for me exactly what I needed, and what my children needed. I hope he knows how much we love him and appreciate him.
  • I’m thankful that I am alive, that I am (mostly) healthy, with a happy marriage, healthy kids, and we are lucky enough to be able to happily live off of my husband’s income.
  • I’m thankful for the simple moments of quiet. Moments where I can sip on my coffee or tea, and simply appreciate life, or ponder on things.

Tomorrow…

  • I’m thankful that, soon, the worries of today will be a distant memory if not forgotten completely.
  • I’m thankful that, someday, I will be able to have a meaningful conversation with my autistic son. I look forward to his stories about what he did at school that day, who his best friend is, why he dislikes pizza, etc. etc.
  • I’m thankful that, someday, I’ll be done with college. I look forward to the possibilities that an education will provide for me and I’m happy that finishing college will be a good example for my kids.
  • I’m thankful that my husband and I have the means to provide so much more than I had growing up. We will be able to comfortably support our children’s hobbies and extra-curricular activities, as well as encourage them to try and fail at whatever interests them. I hope they are brave enough to try and fail just for the sake of experiencing life. I hope they know that we will always be proud of them as long as they keep getting back up.

Well, that’s it for this beautiful Monday! I hope anyone reading this has an amazing rest of their week, and I hope this post made you stop and think about how grateful you are for the things you have, and the things to come!

Cleaning Day 5

**Sorry for the late post! Kept getting interrupted when I was trying to write.

The day is almost done, and I’ve spent a large amount of my time cleaning up LEGOS that will now be stored away until a time comes in which we deem them more age appropriate. They were hand-me-downs from a friend, and I had them stored away, but the kids recently found them. For the last couple days, they’ve really enjoyed dumping them onto the floor, perhaps pulling apart random pieces, then helping me put them away. Man, life would’ve been much more annoying if I wasn’t so on top of my cleaning game when they found those feet killers! But, it got really bad when, about 20 minutes ago, they discovered how much fun it was to dump handfuls of LEGOS over an oscillating fan… had to pull the cage-thingie off that bad boy to get the pieces out. Oh, the joys of parenthood!

Anyways, I’ll be honest. I only did a little bit of real cleaning today. Not to fret, though! Today was more like my Saturday. I’ll treat tomorrow like my Friday and get plenty of cleaning done. Continuing in my honesty, I’m realizing that taking my time up with an hour of cleaning a day is not enough time to blot out the time that I can use to play that evil addictive video game. I’ve not been playing it like I used to, but I’m still playing it at least an hour or so a day. Anyways, I’m thinking that starting next week I need to add a new 21 Day Change to my day.

I think I’m gonna go in a different direction for my next 21 Day Change. I think I want it to benefit me physically (and mentally!). It’s been a while since I really worked out or concentrated on my fitness, so, I’ve decided that this next one will be to practice yoga every day. I think it kinda works out well, since a lot of the time, I wouldn’t take the time to work out, cuz I was so frazzled over my messy house. One main reason I want to get into it again is that when I’ve done certain yoga routines that I’ve seen on YouTube, it’s really helped with the back pain that I inevitably get. Every. Single. Morning. If it doesn’t help, it’s just more ammunition that I’ll need to go buy us a new mattress that I believe we very much need and deserve. I mean, everyone deserves a nice mattress that gives them a good nights sleep and allows them to wake up pain-free… right?

Today…

  • I’m thankful that my kids can happily play together and allow me time to be “grown-up” me, instead of “playmate/mommy” me.
  • I’m thankful that my hubby was able to come home early and we had pizza… again… (hmm… I think I need to have a healthy eating 21 Day Change soon…)
  • (Some may think that this is distasteful, but seriously, I said this out loud today and I truly think that any parents reading this would feel me on this one!) I’m thankful that my 5-year-old son, who needs help wiping after going to the bathroom, generally has clean poops. Seriously. When you gotta wipe someone else’s bum, it’s just nice when there’s not much of a mess to clean up!
  • I’m thankful that I’ve had so much time to spend with my kids while they’re young and not in school, and I’m thankful that I can be home for my son at the end of his school day.
  • I’m thankful for all the things, good and bad, that led me to my current situation. There are so many things that have happened in the past that if changed, would have put me in a completely different place today. Remembering this makes me thankful instead of regretful when I think of mistakes I have made in the past. Each experience has taught me something and I can use them to help others as well.

Tomorrow…

  • I’m thankful that I will be doing yoga starting Monday (if not sooner?) and it should really help with my back pain! Which is why I’m also thankful that there are a plethora of yoga videos available on YouTube which I can literally watch anywhere!
  • I’m thankful that God has a plan for me and even if it isn’t the plan that might choose, it’s one that serves a meaningful purpose. I just hope that I walk the path that He leads me on.
  • I’m thankful that I’m blessed with a good marriage and come October, we will be celebrating our 8th year.

OK, I’m gonna say this is enough for one day. What are you thankful for today? What plans do you have in the future that you feel grateful for today?

Cleaning Day 4

Well, here I am on my 4th day of keeping up with good cleaning habits. At first blush, it kinda looks like I’m running out of things to clean. I mean, by the end of the day, I’m gonna have to have the kids help me put away their toys, plus I’ve already done a bunch of dishes as I gotta do every dang day; but the deep down cleaning is starting to dissipate. Thank Goodness. Today, I’m wiping counters, windows along with their window sills, and cleaning mirrors. If I have more time to fill the hour, I’m gonna start scrubbing the walls and doors clean of my daughter’s crayon creations. I’m also gonna take the time to sanitize the kids’ toys, doorknobs, light switches, etc.

I think the drive to keep going is starting to dim, unfortunately… which is why I’m writing this before I actually did the cleaning. Oh, Procrastination… You are one controlling, butt-monkey. Alrighty! Time to get my lazy booty up and just do it!

TWO HOURS LATER…

Man, I guess I was wrong… still plenty of cleaning to do! I forgot about the deep bay window that sits above my kitchen sink. A real pain-in-the-butt to clean, that’s for dang sure! I’m still only half-done cleaning it, but I’m proud of the work I’ve done today. My fingers are pruney, a good reference to the work I’ve put them through. There’s something about that feeling after you’ve broken a sweat and got some good cleaning time in.  I’m the proudest, however, that I fought off that poop-slinging, anal dwelling primate that most people call “Procrastination.” Not this time, you smelly little thing!

Today…

  • I’m thankful that I fought my urge to be lazy and got some really good cleaning time in.
  • I’m thankful that my son seems to not have contracted whatever my daughter had a few days ago. Don’t know how I dodged that bullet!
  • I’m thankful that I haven’t given up on my goal (yet), and I hope I can keep fighting off my inner sloth!
  • I’m thankful for days like today when my hubby can work from home. Seeing him periodically throughout the day (when he leaves our room and isn’t on a call) is always a huge blessing.
  • I’m thankful that we live in a home located in a good community, with good schools that take good care of my autistic son. Not only all this, but our move to this house allowed us to take care of my niece for 3 awesome years (something I may write more about in a future post?). Despite all my complaints about the superficial qualities involved in this house, it served its purpose well; kept us warm in the winter and cool in the summer. It was the home that we brought our two babies home to from the hospital; they learned to crawl and walk and talk here. It has been a blessing.

 Tomorrow…

  • I’m thankful that after today, I only have 17 days before this forced habit becomes automatic.
  • I’m thankful that in under a year, the house I will be cleaning will actually look nice when I’m through cleaning it… and not be riddled with badly painted walls, poorly patched ceiling cracks, window sealant that looks like a slime monster tried to break into our house… among many other aesthetically displeasing things. (OK, this one sounds a little ungrateful for the home that we currently live in… but see my last thankful point in my “Today” section to see how I am truly thankful for this home… I can have complex feelings regarding my current living conditions, can’t I?)
  •  I’m thankful that, at the new home, not only will we be a couple minute walk from a nice park, but we also plan on putting some playground equipment in the backyard. It will be so much more fun for the kids to play outside when that time comes!
  • I’m thankful that (as long as I keep up with my 21 Day Changes) I will have a lot of good habits to take with me to the new home. My biggest fear is that I allow the new home to turn into the hellish nightmare that I’ve allowed this home to turn into at times!

Alrighty, so that’s it for the day! I hope you had a productive day with appropriate amounts of fun mixed in… Can’t have all work and no play, right?! Tomorrow is Friday! So happy to take a little break from cleaning for the weekend! Although, I will still clean up toys and such with the kiddos every night. I’ll check in with you all tomorrow about my final attempt at finishing out this week’s deep cleanings! Anyways, hope you have a great night!

The History of My Blog

This blog started as a sort of Gratitude Journal. You see, we were expecting to buy my in-laws’ home by March of 2017. I was so excited about such an upgrade, that, in order to keep myself grounded while appreciating what was to come, I wanted to write about how thankful I was about the changes I had to look forward to. Unfortunately, I stopped writing. I don’t know if it wasn’t a broad enough topic or if it’s my own weakness of having trouble keeping up good habits, but I just straight up stopped one day. I even forgot how to log into this when I came back. I was just lucky that my computer had remembered my login information.

In addition, our plans to move fell through. Things were looking bleak on the new home front, and I kinda lost my hope in the whole endeavor. Sure, I would dream by looking at the homes for sale in the area, but ultimately, I knew that our only hope for buying a home was in buying theirs. My husband stopped bringing up the whole idea, and we both just assumed it was off the table. Then suddenly, they found a retirement community that they really love. I think they’d move in tomorrow if they could. There’s a little bit of a waiting list, however, so that’s the only thing that’s up in the air. The hope is that by the time our lease is up in March 2019, there will be an opening for them to take.

Anyways, even with this news, although I was stoked, I didn’t feel the need to revisit the blog writing situation. I had been taking online college classes, and I guess the time I spent away from kids and house managing obligations was just better spent on my homework.

Then, something happened that you might not expect from a stay-at-home-mom who’s worried about keeping her home clean and taking care of sick babies… I became obsessed with a mobile phone video game. It’s called PUBG Mobile, and if you love first-person-shooters where you’re pitted against a whole world of online players, perhaps it would be your bag as well. It didn’t take me long until I was playing daily, sometimes losing the majority of my days to that game with only a strained eyeball headache and a “Winner, Winner, Chicken Dinner!” to show for it. I climbed the ranks and became quite good at the game. Sure, I wasn’t as good as the unemployed virgins living in their parents’ basements… but I held my own. Anyways, it had occurred to me that I could have a problem.

You see, I have this habit of becoming obsessed with ideas, hobbies, food, or whatever. If it’s not video games, it’s the idea of making my own clothes, following a new diet fad, practicing singing so I could form my own band (which wouldn’t sound so ridiculous if you knew that my highly successful IT hubby actually plays 3 different instruments in 3 different bands, and has a song he wrote playing on Spotify regarding another project of his… no, he’s not looking to become a famous musician at 34, and neither am I!), or any other number of (most of the time) fruitless uses of my time.

You see, this realization I had wasn’t a condemnation at all. In fact, if used right, I could use my addictive tendencies to my own betterment. A simple Google search later and I came across this guy’s article, aptly named “Using Your Addictive Personality To Your Advantage.” I definitely recommend reading it. In fact, please do! I’ll wait.

Done? Cool. So, now you realize why I came back, right? At that point, I couldn’t stay away! I went to sleep that night trying to think of all the different changes I could make before we made our move to the new house. That’s when it hit me that I had to return to my blog. I would document my changes, (hopefully) find some readers who could hold me accountable, and it just worked out perfectly that being grateful of the things to come is exactly what you need in order to keep going with (most of the time) grueling, yet rewarding habit changes. I mean, why else would you practice playing an instrument if it wasn’t for the hopes that you’d sound good one day?  Why exercise or eat healthy foods? There’s always a reward waiting for you if you keep up good habits. In short: being thankful for those rewards helps you to envision those results that you long for, thus fueling your desire to continue on your chosen path.

So, that’s it! Now I’ve started my first “21 Day Change” and you are here reading about it. I hope to inspire you to start changes of your own as well as to keep me honest in my own changes! I hope you stick around and we can learn and grow together. See you next time!

Cleaning Day 3

Hey all! Since I actually have a handful of readers to speak to, I’d like to officially say, “Welcome!”

Although I began writing this particular blog in 2016, it ended abruptly and has now evolved a little bit. I’d like to take the time to explain it all. Check out my other post of the day here to get up-to-date on that story.

If you want to read my typical daily post, however… You’re in the right place.

Today has been great! I got my sweeping and mopping out of the way, despite my daughter’s awful mood this morning. She’s fever free, however! So, I’m psyched about that! I can’t be too excited, though, because my son has a slight fever now. I expected as much, but I really was hoping it all would’ve passed by this point. At any rate, the house is cleaner than it was yesterday, plus, I’ve made a list of everything I want to concentrate on for the rest of the week, so, all in all, I think this little experiment is going well!

Today…

  • I’m thankful that my daughter is feeling better, even if her mood might suggest otherwise!
  • I’m thankful that I’m still doing well, and my husband still seems fine (I would love to be able to avoid having to deal with a man-flu, if you know what I’m talking about!)
  • I’m thankful that I had a good nights sleep, and had plenty of energy today.
  • I’m thankful that this is getting more habit-forming than I thought it would, and so soon! Let’s hope it continues!

Tomorrow…

  • I’m thankful that, soon, my family should be completely healthy again!
  • I’m thankful that, soon, cleaning the house won’t be as hard, because I wouldn’t have let it go for so long!
  • I’m thankful that, by this time next year, we’ll be living in a relatively new home, one that doesn’t have wallpaper torn from the bathroom walls, 20+-year-old laminate kitchen flooring that always looks gross, or carpets that have lived through many bathroom training accidents. (yea… yuck!)
  • I’m thankful that, by this time next year, my daughter will be attending some form of daycare a few days a week for a couple hours a day, affording me some much appreciated “ME” time… time I haven’t had since my 5-year-old son was born.

Alrighty, besides my other post, that’s it for me for the day! What are you thankful for today? What do you have to look forward to and be thankful for in the future?

Cleaning Day 2

I had a rough night with my daughter last night. It was unclear why, but she just wouldn’t stop whining and stirring in the night. According to my sleep analysis from my cheap, yet seemingly accurate fitness watch, I had a total of 10 minutes of deep sleep. I had plenty of what my fitness app calls “light sleep” and “wake sleep,” but I’m pretty sure I’m exhausted today because of my lack of deep sleep from constantly waking up to tend to my poor sick baby girl.

Despite my exhaustion, I kicked booty with being productive today. I had to go buy groceries but also spent over an hour cleaning, mostly with the kids. I did a repeat of what we did yesterday, and they eagerly joined in to help. My son even “helped” with the vacuum!

Today…

  • I’m thankful that my daughter’s fever stayed low and didn’t inhibit her from being happy 90% of the day!
  • I’m thankful that my husband worked from home today, enabling me to go shopping without having to drag my sick baby girl around.
  • I’m thankful that the rest of the family is still symptom-free. Hopefully, that luck continues!
  • I’m thankful that despite how tired I was, I used the small surges of energy that I had through the day to get some much-needed things cleaned!

Tomorrow…

  • I’m thankful that I will be able to get some desperately needed sweeping and mopping done tomorrow!
  • I’m thankful that, by the looks of it, my daughter should be feeling a lot better by tomorrow! (But, please God, let her sleep peacefully through the night!)
  • I’m thankful that by this time next week, all of this cleaning will be a habit I’m used to, along with my kiddos who seem to have fun joining in!

Wish me luck in continuing this! I think that my start was kinda rough with the sick baby girl, but I believe the excitement of getting started with all this is what’s driving me. If you want to join me, on your own 21 Day Change, let me know in the comments below! If you have a suggestion for a good 21 Day Change that I could try, I’d love to hear it! Hope you all have an amazing day!